The surveillance video was surprisingly clear, and it showed
one student attack another student --and the victim fighting back. The victim was pushed from behind and then
jerked around by his backpack. He turned
around and a fight ensued, with most of the action unfolding outside of the
view of the camera… Nobody wants fights
on campus, and certainly nobody wants students to be injured at school as the
result of a violent fight. That is what
we can all agree upon. But I also know
that we all have the unalienable right of self-defense when we are attacked.
Don’t we?
So it came as somewhat of a surprise to me to hear
administrators and others whose opinions I typically respect tell me as we
watched the video, “See, the student who was pushed turned around and
started swinging, throwing punches.”
“Did he really have to do this, or could he have handled it a different
way by talking his way out of the incident and not swinging at the attacker?” Was the question one administrator asked
me....
My answer:
We are asking the wrong question and focusing on the wrong
student. The only question that matters,
so far as I’m concerned, is why one student physically attacked another. Blaming the victim for defending himself and
fighting off this attacker solves nothing.
In the incident in question, the one depicted on a video I
recently viewed, the attacker was eventually punished appropriately in my
opinion and the victim sustained a minor injury. The parents of the victim chose not to press
charges, and as best I can tell these two students have had no further issues.
At another school in our district, a High School, the story did not play out with such a happy
ending.
In this school, the student who
was bullied and physically slapped and taunted on multiple occasions tried to
play it off. He took it. He walked away, and he turned the other
cheek. Eventually, he became depressed
and confided in his parents about what was happening. His parent contacted the bullied student’s
coach, who assured the parent “he would take care of it.”
That did not happen.
The bullying became worse and soon other students, somehow
hearing that the victim’s parents had tried to intervene to stop the bullying,
joined in the free-for-all of taunting this student.
Many of these students began calling this freshman student their
“Little White Bitch”
Finally, the exasperated parent approached the principal
about the physical and mental abuses, and she was essentially blown-off with a
“boys will be boys” sort of nonchalant response.
“I have never felt so rushed out of a meeting before in my
life, like he did not want to hear anything I










